Mother's Day 2014 + Freudian Psychoanalytic Theory

Yes, im writing again, hoho. Am feeling so inspired to write whenever i'm home. Home is a good place to write :p *home is a noble/good place to inculcate good bloggers, teehee* This year i made it back to home to celebrate Mother's Day, finally. Previously, I was too busy with my work and activities, that i missed out almost all important events with family :( Sowiiieeee, Papa, Mama, I'll try my best to come back as frequent as i could. Back to the topic, let's see how i celebrated Mother's Day !

It was actually a very ordinary day with daily routine, woke up and did my assignments for awhile then went out for lunch and to buy movie tickets *a MUST routine for occasions/events* Then we went back and nap for awhile....ikr, i made it sounded boring*the Chu family is very used to take afternoon nap :p* Before going out again, i sneaked out to buy flowers for my mum while she was taking her bath. But too bad, the flower was not ready yt, i was told to come again in awhile more. So by the time we went out, le father used another route to drive to the destination, and my mother was like screaming literally..blahhh, but then she was so overwhelmed when i handled her the lil bouquet of flowers ♥♥ *this might sound really bad, but erm, we weren't educated to be romantic..and flowers...hmm.. they're too romantic xD* however, it feels really good when you see the beautiful smile hanging on her face. And you can actually wrap up a conclusion: "all girls love flowers." Still remember the last time she received a flower from me, was 11 years ago. *shame on me* That was during the 25th anniversary with my papa, and now the 36th anniversary.. Then we had some high-tea session at Secret Recipe before we head for movies. Below are some pictures to share :)

oh so sweet. ♥♥

oh bulb! :/ btw, my hand look so long here.

that bouquet of carnations. 

haha, just ngeh ngeh wanna show my photography skills.

macam improve liao. *everybody knows my photography skills sucks.*

Wokayh, let's get into second chapter. As you can see at the title, " Freudian Psychoanalytic Theory". What was that about? it's more intellectual kind but very interesting to know. And if you wanna know more, click here. I was suddenly very inspired to talk about this after i watched this movie. 

I can tell you it's a very good movie to learn Freudian's Psychoanalytic Theory. So to make it simple, i will explain briefly about this theory. This theory was introduced by Sigmund Freud, and he actually laid out that "personality development underlies the consciousness level". And a few simple things, there are 3 identities ( ID, EGO and SUPEREGO ) that lies among your 3 consciousness level. ( conscious, pre-conscious, and unconscious ) 

In short, ID is buried deep down below your consciousness level, ( unconscious ) and EGO appears at a very conscious state. ID was operated by pleasure principle while EGO was operated by rationality. This is also where conflicts will occur. But, as we can see, we have no strong awareness about the existence of ID because it is buried deep down in the sub-conscious mind. Therefore, in this movie, we can see that Dave ( the main character ) he tried to be rational when he realized that he made mistakes (which he is conscious atm) and he couldn't control himself when the sub-conscious mind was controlling over him and ID took over his SUPEREGO identity ( which was to balance out between ID and EGO ). So, we often see people having conflicts between this. :p 

Just something to share, because this movie explains it so clearly that Dave became a demon without himself realizing about it until the last second. And when he is at the pre-conscious state, he thinks he's wrong, and he punishes himself by slapping belt hard to his body. Some might say he's at a conscious state instead of pre-conscious because pain makes him realize. But the main argument here is that he doesn't even realize that the demon lives in him, which is the ID that lies under his unconscious mind, when he thought is the bad guy(who had died earlier on, and Dave wasn't aware about this) who did all the murders. Having this ID that lives in the unconscious mind is usually caused by childhood trauma, and which exactly it was the trauma that has triggered him after he lived his years of life peacefully. (peacefully, i would say so, because he did no violence to others after this trauma, besides himself, but of course, he is psychologically stressed and burdened) That extreme fear is what that has haunted him for years. 

Well, maybe i sound confusing, basically just sharing what i know, just watch the movie and you'll understand what i'm saying. :)

Well, maybe i'm wrong. Correct me then if i am. I'm always ready to learn. :)

Lastly, selfie of course ! xD

                                                            Side Holland double braid. ♥♥
                                          If you see carefully, you'll see there's a double braid...
                                                                and dark circles. T.T
                                                #doublebraid #sidebraid #hollandbraid #hotd

                                          ootd. Ignore my face, the lighting in the room was bad. 
                                                        Lacey turquoise blue mini dress with belt.
                                          #ootd #lace #turquoiseblue #minidress #girlsbeinggirls



                                      and Happy Mother's Day !! ♥♥

Kbyethx. See you soon. 

HOPEFULLY.

sex and gender

Hello guys, it's been quite awhile since i last blogged in english. I'm pretty sorry about that as i am really busy, i had only 5 days that i could be back in my room by 12am, other than that, it's either 1am/1.30am since the new semester started. I actually got lazy to blog but was motivated to blog again when i heard one of my coursemate telling me that she reads my blog. So, ok, gotta wait for awhile for me to cover back my July and August wrap out. Ikr, it's September now, almost October, and i'm still haven done with my previous 2 months bloggie. I know i'm a failed blogger, please just forgive me la okayh.

So just wanna share with you guys about one interesting thing i learnt in class today. It's about Sex and Gender. Let me ask you, how do you define between sex and gender?

Sex is how you're biologically coordinated, how you're born, how you're completed with genitals ( sex organs ), either the guys, girls or both. 
But gender, is how you portrays yourself as a gender you wanna be, how do you tell others your innerself and how the society define a certain sex by the outer look and behaviour. Besides, it also depends on how one is being brought up by the family, how one was treated. It's more to cultural. 

Like for some cases, some people they're born with the guy's body sexual structure, but maybe there is mismatch of chromosomes in the cell which leads them to act more feminine. And they themselves think their soul are girls but they're born with wrong diff body structures.
Therefore, some of them chooses to undergo transgender operation. But still, their sex is still the original ones, how they're born with, how they're biologically inherited from the parents. Sex is something which you cannot change.

But for gender, i would say yes and no. Yes and No, why? It is yes, changeable from an individual's perspective; you have the rights and you're managed to display yourself of whom you wanna be, who you really are. It is No, from a society's perspective, it's very difficult as the society has already had that kind of expectations from you, they have already a mould and expected you to be the exact shape that could fit it. Let's say if you're a boy and being brought up as a girl, the society will still judge you based on your look, if you look like a boy, they'll still locked your image as a boy. There's gonna be a conflict when your family culture does not fit into the bigger culture zone.
I don't know, but i've seen a lot of cases where transgender are not being treated as normal human being, the society bans them from being honest with themselves. I doubt if the gender inequality itself is the root cause of transgender prostitution. :/

Alright, share me your opinions. 
Goodnight, see you soon.

public transport? yes or no?

Finally today we had the last practice for FESENI Chinese Traditional Dance. So, it's a very good day to start off with my holiday. Planned to go for a movie with Joan. She has to go to KL Sentral to get her train ticket back to Penang, so she waited me in Mid Valley. *again? -___-. nearest place ma*

Went out after dressing up nicely. It always takes me more then 40 minutes to reach Mid Valley from my uni, which the journey actually only takes 20mins or maybe less. Nahh, at first you gotta take T632 bus (RapidKL) from ze uni to University LRT Station, then T631 bus to Mid Valley.
Let's simulate a situation: You take a bus from your residential college to the UM main bus stop to take T632 bus. There's also campus bus every 15 minutes on weekdays, every hour on weekends and holidays. For holidays, if you reach 30 secs later when the bus reach  your place, here you goes bye bye. So usually, i'll walk for 10 mins from my rc to the nearest bus stop to take T632. And then sometimes, you gotta wait for 15 mins also. And then 10 mins journey to University LRT Station. When you reach there, you STILL gotta wait for the bus T631. Sometimes, the drivers are here, shaking legs, smoking, chit-chatting, but they won't get in the bus on time just they wanna see a pasar of people waiting and lining up, looking very irritated, THEN only they will get in the bus. *guess they'll feel more satisfied* To assemble so many people, you have to at least wait for 3 rounds of LRT route. Each round takes at least 3 minutes. So add up, at least 10 mins to squeeze in bus T631. Simple maths ? 10 mins walking + 15mins bus+ 10 mins journey + 10 mins drivers get their mood to drive = 45 mins already. Another 10 mins journey to Mid Valley. 

Wheee, reached ! after so long *facepalm*

Redeem the free movie ticket from Samsung Mob!lers for the horror movie "Mama" and smuggled in my Carls Junior Big Burger with Cheese combo set because i was rushing for movie already. Must give it a big thumb for the mouth-watering burger. It's a bit expensive compared to Mc Donald's of course, but the quality worth it ! charbroiled beef patty ( muh fav, i don't really like chicken act) with pickled cucumber and fresh made pure potato fries, and bottomless carbonated drink. I was shocked to see the big portion of the food. It was really big, and can last for 2 meals, serious.

 with Joan ♥ :)

the medium cup equals to large cup of McD i guess.

this movie, 4.5 out of 5 stars :D

 

After that we had the favourite session, shooooooppppinnnngggg. 

To be precise, window shopping for me. T.T

♥ found in Lovely Lace.

 i wanna put this in the house of my future boyfriend. kakkakka *evil grin*

 CNY decos! Can you feel it ? *dong dong dong dong qiang*

 pretty ! she's single and available,date her :D phhheewwwiiiittt

 Loving this ! Pinkevil floral bustier top, didn't buy it la but. :/

 super ♥ this printed legging, still considering to buy or not. Simple and trendy.

chandelier in Forever 21 fitting rooms ! ♥

 fav, Gong Cha. new flavour, Lemon Yoghurt smoothie and my all-time ♥, Caramel Milk Tea.

#ootd ! Red singlet with Uniqlo Dark Green colour jeans. 

Spent a great day with Joan, the last tme we hangout together was the first Sunday after the orientation week ended, and this time was one week after first sem ended. D: Next sem must hangout together more often :)

 

Still wanna comment a bit with the public transport in Malaysia. LRT ? Yes fast. Monorail? Snail speed. KTM, always delay. Bus? Jam together with other vehicles on the highway? Taxi? Too expensive ! What else? What i really dislike about public transport is you'll have to wait for very long and the time just got wasted like that. Punctuality is not in their dictionary. Waiting under a windy shield? Nope, under extremely hot 30 degree celcius covered bus stop with no guarantee you will not get wet if it rains. If you make up nicely and you take public transport, you'll usually end up in this.

 

All messed up, sweating somemore. No point using your perfume -___- The better ones are rail transport such as LRT, Monorail and train.. As i mentioned, only LRT is advisable. But, if you wanna go somewhere in KL town, such as Times quare and Bukit Bintang, You need to take Monorail transit at KL Sentral, this is VERY inconvenient and frustrating ! In my opinion, if Malaysia ever able to improve the public transportation just like Singapore, i will not buy a car. I don't have to bear the shrinkage values as well, why not then? I can avoid traffic jam, how cool is that? The fact is, in Malaysia, it's gonna jam forever. It will only get worsen, not any better.

So, you wanna hangout with nice dress, nice hair and nice makeup? 

Hire a personal driver *wink* 

You know what i mean. :3

lol, LOL or HAHAHHAHAHA?

A biggggg Hi first before i start writing about today's topic. Blog's been abandoned for over a month's time as i'm having my final exam for this semester. *can't believe this semester gonna end soon, time flies* Today i've just done 5th paper and next/last paper will be on 18th jan, i have PPLLLEEENNNTTTTYYYYYYY of time, so update a bit first. 

Chose the topic of the day: lol, LOL or HAHAHAHAHA? 

why this topic? because i observed that for the last whole year people has been abusing "lol". Firstly it wasn't so widely use when i was in form 6. Then people start understanding the meaning of "lol" and start using it. Soon, it became a trend on facebook. But... since like last year, "lol" stands for another meaning instead of Laugh Out Loud, it stands for this

Agree? I know you do. Whenever you say something "cold", they kinda like speechless and tend to reply you with "lol" instead of =.=. Which has clearly shown they're either speechless or they don't feel funny with the jokes you just cracked, conclusion: you're bad joker. Or some, they use it to answer every single question you ask them, like this :
A :" Have you eaten?"
B:" lol."
This means the respondent B has got no interest in you at all and doesn't wanna start a chat with you, "lol" as another new way to cut chat thread. Wow, another function !

Next, what makes "lol" and "LOL" different? the CAPITAL LETTERS, apparently. Why different? Usually when you use uppercase, it means you're like saying it loud, just like "GET OUT OF MY ROOM !" It sounds serious and loud as if you're shouting them. I remember when i first own a handphone during form1 and i just type all the message in capital letters because i don't know how to switch the font, and my brother told me that it's rude to type all words in uppercase. So, the same goes to the word "lol", when you capitalize it, you mean it serious. You're like saying "this is funny", you actually agree to the joke to some extend and kinda enjoy it. You're paying attention to what that person is telling you and you understand it. So usually, you're like this:

What about HAHAHHAH then? As i mentioned, when you capitalize it, you mean it serious. so Usually you'll really laugh with laughter, and  you totally agree with that person and is sincerely laughing because it's funny. ROFL ? yea, much the same.

and usually for we Chinese, we tend to add on with "laugh die me" which is a direct translated word from Chinese. ._. This clearly states that you're interested in the chatting and you want more! This makes your day and your reaction could make your friend to feel the satisfaction and is proud for being good and attractive in chatting! You see, it's a simple thing that makes huge differences, it's also one new way to communicate and to show your sincerity.

As the conclusion, using of "lol" don't just show your reaction towards something your friend speak but also shows your sincerity in chatting, whether you're paying attention or not. So, for those who have always receive reply like "lol", i suggest you to improve your joking skills a bit or just back off, okay, cause people is not interested in chatting with you. Get a new target or stop telling lame jokes, people couldn't agree with you. It's a mutual reaction, you couldn't force people to laugh at your lame jokes right? So, read more 9gags and learn up the latest communication skill. You'll benefit.


so, HAHAHHAHA?